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My intention for the next 10 days is to dig into Cherie Carter-Scott's work, "Ten Rules for Being Human." Here's her list--I'll focus on one rule each day! Today is rule 7:
We often settle for crumbs in our friendships when we all deserve the most delicious cake! Sometimes, we keep friends around, even when we are uncomfortable for whatever reason--we give too much, we are constantly criticized or told what to do, or we just can't be ourselves. Sometimes, we hang on just because we are afraid of being alone. Someone is better than no one, right? No Way! Yikes! RED FLAG!!!!!!
Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
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If we are mean to ourselves, and pay close attention to and listen to our inner mean girl, why shouldn't others be mean to us, as well? We draw into our lives people who reflect or mirror how we treat ourselves.
Why don't we have the courage to let go of those friendships?
Why don't we have the courage to let go of those friendships?
When I was in middle school, I used to wonder why other girls were so mean to me; I believed the rotten stuff they said about me, and I never stuck up for myself or argued with them.
This kept happening over and over again. Hmmmmnnnnnn...that's interesting...
Have you ever noticed that the SAME characters keep showing up in your life (with different faces, of course) until you learn the lesson you are supposed to learn ?!!!!?
Funny how that works!
We teach people how to treat us. It doesn't matter whether the friends are girls or boys--people treat us the way we allow ourselves to be treated (BTW--it's the same when you are grown up!...)
This kept happening over and over again. Hmmmmnnnnnn...that's interesting...
Have you ever noticed that the SAME characters keep showing up in your life (with different faces, of course) until you learn the lesson you are supposed to learn ?!!!!?
Funny how that works!
We teach people how to treat us. It doesn't matter whether the friends are girls or boys--people treat us the way we allow ourselves to be treated (BTW--it's the same when you are grown up!...)
You know, we actually train (yep, as in training dogs! ) the people in our lives how to treat us by what we are willing to put up with, and I believe this is soOoOoo true!
What is the first word we teach a dog?
"NO."
First, we teach a dog what we are NOT willing to put up with; then, we reward the dog when it behaves in a way that is acceptable to us.
Hmmnn... lessons from dogs!
Would you keep a dog in your house who constantly barked at you and nipped at your fingers or clamped on to the bottom of your pant legs? Absolutely not!!!! (and if you did, who would be the problem? you? or the dog?...just sayin'...)
What is the first word we teach a dog?
"NO."
First, we teach a dog what we are NOT willing to put up with; then, we reward the dog when it behaves in a way that is acceptable to us.
Hmmnn... lessons from dogs!
Would you keep a dog in your house who constantly barked at you and nipped at your fingers or clamped on to the bottom of your pant legs? Absolutely not!!!! (and if you did, who would be the problem? you? or the dog?...just sayin'...)
So, if you are noticing that you surround yourself with people who aren't very nice to you, ask yourself "Why?"
They are a reflection of how you feel about you! Otherwise, you would not put up with them...you would walk away!
They are a reflection of how you feel about you! Otherwise, you would not put up with them...you would walk away!
Walking down another street can be a really hard, brave thing to do, and sometimes we don't have choices about the people who surround us--like on teams, at work, or in school.
When that happens, we can just look to others with love and detachment, and be
on our way . . . on our own path.
When that happens, we can just look to others with love and detachment, and be
on our way . . . on our own path.
Much love!
Dana
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