Star Trek: Resistance is Futile
When you become defensive, blame others, and do not accept and surrender to the moment, your life meets resistance. Any time you encounter resistance, recognize that if you force the situation, the resistance will only increase. You don't want to stand rigid like a tall oak that cracks and collapses in the storm. Instead, you want to be flexible, like a reed that bends with the storm and survives.
Completely desist from defending your point of view. When you have no point to defend, you do not allow the birth of an argument. Someone once told me, "The past is history, the future is a mystery, and this moment is a gift. That is why this moment is called 'the present'."
Most of us have experienced another person persecuting us, verbally; in other words, people are talking s#!+ about us. It's interesting how we humans do that to each other. And guess what? It meets some serious needs for the person who is talking s#!+.
Let's take a closer look:
- If I talk about you, I take the spotlight off of myself and what it is about ME that I need to change, shift, or look at.
- When I focus on YOU, I ASSume I know what's in your head and what you need. SUPER-DUPER LIE!
- If I talk about being "worried" about YOU . . . I am ASSigning meaning to your life which is frankly, . . . NONE OF MY dA(m)nG BUSY-NESS . . .
Which brings me to the idea of BUSY-NESS.
Have you ever noticed that people who are focused on the business of others do not look at their own business, and they create more and more BUSY-NESS out of their own habit of keeping up with what's going on with everyone else?
It's okay. Like I wrote earlier, this is a need-seeking behavior. We all have a need for significance and belonging, and sometimes we feel significant when we have "THE (made up) GOODS" on someone else, and we stir the pot to create chaos and deflect focus from ourselves and our own stuff. HOW Convenient. Thanks, Church Lady (Dana Garvey from SNL). CLICK BELOW!
For those of us who have done this (and I, for sure, am guilty . . .) I invite you to kindly and firmly KNOCK IT OFF, and
LOOK IN THE MIRROR:RORRIM EHT NI KOOL
do not want to get sucked into your
(note poop-brown color)
it's not interesting,
and it lacks integrity.
For those of us who have been the recipient of such diatribes:
- RELAX. Breathe. It's not about you!
- As Chopra said, DO NOT DEFEND YOURSELF. "Completely desist from defending your point of view." Everything in the Universe is energy, and in these situations, we need to conserve our energy for ourselves. Defending takes your energy away.
- Know that this is need-seeking behavior (not about you) and try to have compassion for the person who persecutes you; remember time when you have done the same.
- LOVE YOURSELF EVEN MORE--WHATEVER THAT LOOKS LIKE FOR YOU. Here are some ideas that work for me:
- take a salt bath.
- change your environment.
- meditate (don't medicate . . .)
- scream into a pillow.
- watch your favorite stupid show.
What are your feelings and thoughts about these emotional VaMpIrES? How do you handle them in your amazing Life?
Let us know in the comments!
MonSTer (but not vampire) LovE!