Letter to my Beloved Children, and Everybody . . .
- Be nice, and be respectful, and appreciative. People will also be nice and respectful to you and appreciative, as a result. This is especially true for best friends and colleagues in the future, for people you hate, as well as potential boyfriends and girlfriends, and spouses. P.S. I think we are all burned out on feeling unappreciated--not your problem, just saying.
- Contribute to the household. Help out because you live here; parents are not your servants. Ideas: Pick up after yourself, do your dishes, empty the dishwasher, walk Teddy and Lulu (dogs), help make dinner, take out the garbage, mow, clean your room, do your laundry, clean your bathroom, get the mail, wipe the counters, dust, vacuum (never mind, that's Keith's favorite). Also, ask every night if there is anything you can do to help.
- GO TO SCHOOL: Do not ask me to miss school for an entire day to catch up on anything. You have two classes, one of which is online (can you do this during the weekend, you are behind because you have already missed school because you slept in--how does that make sense?). You live in a country where school is a right, not a luxury, so please embrace it as much as you can, even if it is not a perfect fit. I have worked very hard to find a place for you in this system, and if you have any other ideas about what you need, please share with me. You are so lucky.
- Don't wreck stuff. It's expensive, and disrespectful of our property, and the hard work we have put in to pay for this place to live. If you had an apartment, you would be kicked out for damages.
- Get a JOB. It helps pay for stuff you want, and it's good practice for life, when you have to pay for where you live, your food, a car (if you can afford it), and Internet, gaming, video streaming, Amazon, etc. Can you imagine getting cut off from this stuff?
- ASK FOR HELP. Your life is what it is. Do you need help? Ask for it. Do you not have someone to talk with? You have reported that you cannot talk to me. Find someone who you can talk to. We have great health insurance--there is a team of health care workers who can help you.
- I LOVE YOU. I have gone miles and miles. I am doing my best. I am still a single parent. I don't expect you to understand, but I want you to know.