Saturday, January 30, 2016

cHooSe your POWERful tHouGHts . . .

“There is nothing either good or bad, 
but thinking makes it so.
Dear FunFreePeeples!
Last night I woke up at 12:30 and never really got back to sleep. My mind was taking over my body,  . . . hELp!
This is what happens when I actually listen to my thoughts and believe them--especially when they are negative or self-critical, or they have to do with my past or worry about my future . . . 
      they get bigger
                     and BIGGER
                             and BIGGER
until they literally take over my brain and body!
I have to remind myself that I am in charge of my own thoughts and beliefs. My perception of the outside world is nothing more than a projection of my inside world, a projection of my inner world, my fears, doubts, struggles, my own darkness. Here's another amazing quote about our thoughts and feelings:

"You are not your mind, your emotions or the circumstances of your life. You are the peaceful observer of your mind and emotions that allows life circumstances to pass through and around you for your evolution to finally come to a place of total acceptance of all that is. Only the peaceful observer remains after all else fades away. Only the peaceful observer in total acceptance of what is can take action towards effectively changing anything. You are only this peaceful observer--everything else is as fleeting as the blink of an eye, choose happiness and don't buy into it." 

- Jackson Kiddard
We can choose to blame the world for our unhappiness, and our our lack of abundance and inner peace. Happiness is our choice and our responsibility because ultimately we choose our own thoughts, our own beliefs, and our interpretation of our own life events. If we are too busy focusing our time and energy on what is wrong, we may be putting our attention to the wrong stuff.
When we choose to see the many incredible things that take place every day in our world across the world, our amazing relationships  in our lives. And, when we choose to accept all for WHAT IS, we can be at peace.

Which brings me back to (of course! you guessed it!)


So, to get myself of my brain and thoughts, I am going to meditate and begin a gratitude practice by silently saying thank you to all that is in my day.

Thanks for reading! Hearts!

Friday, January 29, 2016

dOn'T jUdGe . . . dOn'T ASSume!

One day a couple of summers ago, my daughter had a doctor's appointment (she's diabetic) about 1/2 hour away from home. We left an hour before her appointment, and since her blood sugar had been running high for the morning, she was really thirsty. I forgot to put a water bottle in the car, so I knew I had to pull over and get Chloe some water...she really couldn't wait the 25 minutes or so before we got to our destination.

I pulled into the parking lot of a little bistro 'cuz there was no street parking, and the only space available was one that read "NO PARKING ALLOWED." Now, when you are a parent, you sometimes have to look at the risks in a situation and decide what is more important; in my case, I would have rather gotten a parking ticket than kept Chloe from getting the water she needed (do you get what I mean?)

Anyway, as we were rushing out of the car to the bistro to get water, two big-haired, blinged-out women wearing high-heels came out of a hair salon (I think I sound a bit judgmental here, don't you? oOps! I guess I do it, too!). 

The taller brunette looked at me in kind of a snotty way, pointed to the sign and shook her finger at me, "You're not supposed to park here. Don't you see the sign?" The momma bear came out in me, and although I don't think I sounded too rude, I for sure was very short and to the point. I looked at her straight in the eye and said, "I understand that, thank you very much. My daughter is diabetic and she needs water." I took my daughter's hand and started to quickly walk away. The brunette looked surprised, and softened a bit and said, "Oh. Do you need some help?" I replied, "No, thank you."

We got a super big drink of water in the little bistro, and then walked back across the street to the NO PARKING (scary!) ZONE.

Guess what? The two women were waiting in their black Ford Escalade until we got back (maybe to make sure we didn't get a ticket? Maybe to see if things were okay? I'll never know . . . ). As we got into the car, the brunette waved to us, smiled, and gave us the thumbs up, and we gave her the double thumbs up back.
*               *                *               *               *               *               *
Hmmnnnnn . . . guess we never know what people are up to when they do stuff WE don't think they should do . . . maybe it's not really our place to judge, huh? Has this ever happened to you? It's kind of humbling, eh? Let me know in the comments! Tell us everything!

LoVinG it aLL!

Thursday, January 28, 2016

rE-LeAse it . . . for REAL-eAsE . . .


DeAr fUn & fReE foLk!

For the past weeks I have been blogging a bit about feelings. A vid from TheChopraWell described some steps to get rid of yucky, toxic feelings. The last 2 steps were releasing the emotions through a ritual, and then celebrating the release. SInce I'm an English teacher, I want to mention that 
  • "re" literally means back or again
  • "lease" to allow borrow or rent 

6. Release toxic emotions through a ritual: to let go and move on. I personally love doing rituals, and here are a couple of ideas about release rituals:

  • blow up a balloon and as you are blowing air into the balloon, picture the yucky emotions going into the balloon . . . then, either POP the balloon, or release the balloon up into hEaVen!
  • get a big jar of bUbBLeS and as you blow the buBBLeS, do the same thing: picture the pukey gross leftOvER goo going into the bubbles and dissolving up into the heAvEns
  • carry a rock around (like the 20 lb rock I ran 4 miles with) for awhile and then PUT IT DOWN!

7. Celebrate the release of the feelings: This can be a more positive, grateful practice--a way to honor your feelings, forgive yourself and others, and give yourself a big hug. What I would do? Here are some ideas:

  • grab your favorite yummy blankie and take a delicious 2-hour nap!
  • take an awesomely long hot shower with some fizzy shower tablets that smell like lavender or peppermint! 
  • dance to your favorite rockin' song! Here's my favorite song right now--

I don't know about you all, but I really appreciate the process of awakening--you know, being 


Thanks Katy! (even though it's painful, surprising & hard sometimes . . . ). The other thing, is that it's not always on MY timeline--but I trust that the Universe knows what it's doing. I'm grateful for it all!

LotS & lOts of LuV!
:o) dana

Wednesday, January 27, 2016

U r NoT fEaR!

Yo fUn & fReE fOlkS!
This has definitely been a month of fAcIng my FeArS! Like, as in doing what's right for me (despite what other people say about it, how they judge me, and the stories (lies) they make up about mY TrUtH!) I am not really sure why it's anyone else's business, but it keeps happening, so I must still need to work on thAt LeSSoN. Thanks, You-niverse! (not . . . jk . . . but I'm a bit sick and tired of it . . .)
I used to:
  • try to be perfecKt so nobody would find fault with me
  • when people did find fault or criticize me, just deny it, or make an excuse for it, or kiss their butt enough to change their mind about how bad or wrong or stUpiD I was . . . super InAuTheNtiC of me . . . but it was how I survived . . . ;( BTW: I wonder why I allowed these people to hang around me in the first place when it felt like such crap. Can you relate? 
  • NOTE TO SELF: gEt these iCky tOXic people oUT! Send them off with loVE and comPAssIOn, but SHOW THEM THE freakin' DOOR!
What I'm learning, is that just 'cuz someone think or says something about me, doesn't mean it's automatically true! That includes the mean crappy crap I tell mEself!
Also, I am learning to not even waste my EnergY defending mE(self) to these people 'cuz it is drainingnot true, and the stuff people say and do to me isn't really about me, anyway.
Do you know that the way people treat and what they say @ you isn't ever really about you? It's about tHeM and who tHeY are and what stories they make up about You! Isn't that weird? Which means by default (scary thing to tell you, here, but I'm just being real . . .) the way yOu treat others is neVer about ThEm and wHo you are and WhAt storiEs you make up about them!

My daughter was noodling (thinking) out loud in the car yesterday and she was telling me about some kids who talk "stuff" about her at camp--and she felt kinda bad. And I asked her if the stuff was true.
She said, "Nope." 
Then, I asked her this: "If someone told you your skin is purple, would you believe it?
She laughed and  said, "Of course not, 'cuz it's not true.
And I said, "Same thing. If you know it's not true, then it's not!" Then, she told me that some of the spiritual stuff I talk about is confusing for her--and, of course, I told her it's confusing to me, too! HAHAHAHAHAHA!

To be clear: setting boundaries around how others treat you is totally healthy (see above about showing them the door . . .). AS my biG bRo told me one morning (we both have recently "broken up" with some ickies in our lives and we were sharing our war stories . . . 'sup Christopher? I KNEW you'd be pleased!), you get to be youR LOveLy seLf, BUT YOU ARE NOT A DOORMAT FOR PEOPLE TO WALK ALL OVER!
So, MEet you fears and follow your dreams, ffps--one teeny tiny baby step at a time, and finD pEaCE in what's right fOr you!
LoVe U to the mOOn and bacK!
;) dana

Tuesday, January 26, 2016

FeAr . . . nOt!

“What is the difference between an obstacle and an opportunity?
Our attitude toward it. 
Every opportunity has a difficulty,
and every difficulty has an opportunity.” 
―J. Sidlow Baxter
Dear Fun & Free People-

One day a few years back I wrote about how my bestie helped me shed light on a shadowy & fearful spot in my life: my finances. As my bestie told me, "It ain't gonna get better until you go to the doctor." In other words, living in the place of fear doesn't make the challenge go away. If there's a pink elephant in the room, there's a pink elephant in the room--even if nobody acknowledges it, right?

Let's just say that I have been breathing a bit more easily in the past 24 hours.

I learned some of important things from this experience:
  • my fear itself was much scarier than the actual thing I was feeling fearful about: money. Money, after all, is simply an exchange of energy (kind of like food, huh?).
  • I have people in my life who can scaffold and support me through my fears, just like my friend who has expertise about finances can teach me a lot of great stuff.
  • I have people in my life whom I can scaffold and support through their fears with stuff I have expertise about . . . funny how that works!
  • Once I face a fear, I have courage to move forward and face another one.
Even though my mentor as been talking about this fact for years, I never really got it until it was demonstrated to me yesterday through my own experience. I guess that's how we human beings learn, through experience. And if we rob ourselves of moving through the experience of fear out the other side, we never learn that stuff just ain't that scary.

So here's the other surprising lesson: 

FEAR can point us to what we MUST do next.
FEAR is a gift.
FEAR is a pink elephant with angel's wings!
(repeat image in mind)

There are some more fears that I MUST face in the coming weeks, and I've been scared in advance, but I know the Universe is aligning to prepare me for the next set of fears I must face, especially after looking at my financial situation in the FACE.

I say BRING IT ON ( . . . almost . . . still need to breathe a bit, first!) 
How can you face your fears and come out the other side? Let me know in the comments!

Monday, January 25, 2016

LovE aLL of tHeM. . .

Dear fun & free folk!

Here is the message I got from the Universe the other day. It reminded me that I need to accept all the people in my life exactly as they are:

For as long as you wish to keep them in your life, 
Dana Lynne, whoever they may be, 
understanding them, as opposed to changing them,
will wildly improve the chances that they'll wish to keep you in their life.

Oh wow, how I love you -
    The Universe

I have spent a lot of time and energy in my life trying to change the people and circumstances around me. What I would like to do is work on accepting the people and challenges around me without fighting it all! 

It is all good; and, as my bestie always says to me, "All is well..."

I love life! All of it . . . the good stuff and the not so good (crappy) stuff!


Sunday, January 24, 2016

aBoUt tHiS huMan sTuFF . . . i'M sOrrY . .

Dear funfreePpPS!

Relationships are such a delicate dance. One minute we are close and enjoying the warm intimacy of a friend, lover, or family member,  and then, to our dismay, one or both parties can hurt each other, saying or doing things that break the trusted bond between them. Trying to bridge back after the hurt and reach a new level of understanding of one another can be one of the biggest challenges in life---but also the most rewarding.

After members in a relationship have hurt one another or there has been a break in communication or crossing of a boundary from one person to another (what I call a disrepair), the relationship can become a place for growth and deepening when the parties are willing to come back together, share their feelings with each other, and renegotiate the rules of their connection. 

In some cases, the two people in a relationship need space--and it may take some time to get to a place where the relationship can benefit from honest and open disclosure of feelings and events that led up to the disrepair. Sometimes, people simply need to take time apart, lick their wounds, and move on to process with someone else other than the person with whom they experienced the disrupt (meaning friend, lover, family member, coworker). This other person could be a trusted friend, counselor, teacher, or family member.

I have been thinking a lot lately about saying I'm sorry, on the one hand, and then also the act of forgiveness, on the other hand.

I believe it takes great courage to apologize authentically. Like, I mean, from a place of true remorse and willingness to see the parts in myself that I need to look at and possibly change. It's not a place of I'm sorry, but you . . . 
It's a genuine place of "I hurt you. I'm so sorry. It was about me, not you. It will not happen again."
So, here is an amazing blog about saying "I'm Sorry, OK?" by Terry Cole. She provides us with a model that is clean and true. Check it out:

I’m Sorry, OK?
by TERRI COLE on AUGUST 4, 2012

“Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer
This week I want to talk about the anatomy of an authentic apology. Do you know how to say you’re sorry and mean it? Let’s look at a couple of common ways people think they are apologizing but are actually not:
1. Do you say things like:
“I am sorry, but _____________” (fill in the excuse for your bad behavior here)
e.g. “I’m sorry, but I was tired”
“I am sorry, but YOU _____________” (fill in justification for retaliatory bad behavior here)
e.g. “I’m sorry, but you were annoying me.”
“I’m sorry, OK?” (Add frustrated not at all sorry sounding tone here)
“I’m sorry you think that I did something that I need to be sorry for.”
2. Do you act out your feeling of remorse rather than putting words on it?
A friend of mine told me that in 13 years of marriage her husband has never said, “I’m sorry,” but she knows he is because he acts nicer than usual.
An authentic apology does not include any qualifier after the words “I’m sorry.”
An authentic apology looks something like this:
“I’m really sorry, I was wrong.” (Stop talking)
“I am sorry. I should not have _____________. It will not happen again.” (Stop talking)
The key to an authentic apology includes saying you are sorry and allowing the other person to tell you what they experienced or why they are upset.
I want you to think about how you apologize and what you need to do to actually BE sorry and communicate it in an authentic and effective way
I hope you have an amazing week, and, as always, take care of you.
Love Love Love
Terri Cole, founder and CEO of Live Fearless and Free, is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Recently, Terri released her first CD “Meditation Transformation”.
What have been your challenge in apologizing? Let me know in the comments!
More 2-morrow!
Love U loTtSa!d-dog

Saturday, January 23, 2016

Got Health?

Last week I came across this amazing article about being healthy, and how it is each of our responsibilities to operate within our most optimum health in order to serve. Interesting that it always comes back to caring for ourselves before we serve the interests of others. Check out Pilar Gerasimo's call to revolution: Click on the link to see the full blog.

A Manifesto for Thriving in a Mixed-Up World

Being Healthy Is a Revolutionary Act

Throwing off the chains of poor health and reclaiming our full vitality is both our individual right and our collective responsibility. And there is perhaps no more life-transforming choice.Being strong and healthy in an unhealthy culture makes you part of an empowered minority. It gives you freedoms and opportunities that poor health and fitness prohibit. It endows you with the energy, clarity and resiliency to fully enjoy your life, and to make bigger, more meaningful contributions in anything you do. Choosing a healthy way of life involves making some revolutionary choices, and it also has revolutionary results.
Because when you change your health for the better, you change the lives of everyone around you for the better, too.
In a very real way, you change your world.
Pilar Gerasimo
How can you optimize your health and well-being? Are there any unhealthy patterns that you'd like to alter? How would your contributions change? Leave a comment and share your goal!

Lots of Love,

Friday, January 22, 2016

wE aLL R eNERgY!

hEY aLL!

My students and my own kids tell me every day how crazy, awkward, and weird I am. But I'm actually fine with it--'cuz it's true.
As my daughter Chloe, said to me just ten minutes ago, "Mom, you so cRaY-cRaY . . . and uBer-cRaY-cRaY . . . and . . . uR awesome and that's why I love you . . .". 
  • Do you think she was referring to the fact that when we went to her diabetes appointment at the hospital yesterday--I got money from the cash machine and looked really surprised when it came out---I actually started jumping up and down, and raised my hands in the air and ran wildly down the hallway shouting, 
We're rich!
We're rich!
We're rich!
(it just seemed like the right thing to do...
we made patients in the hospital laugh out loud!) 
  • Or, maybe that when we were on our way to the beach, we broke out in a random water-noodle war in the pathway complete with super stealthy Ninja-like moves and sounds? And then we moved it to the bandshell and pretended we were in our own movie?
So, so, so, fun . . .
and necessary for me . . .
if I want to be myself . . . 
and I am
(like my blog). . . 

Chloe and I like to be silly in public 'cuz we like to make people smile and laugh. That's why we hold hands and skip down the street, and sing out loud!
'Cuz super awesome positive amazing energy is


If you don't believe me, check out this video about how negative and positive thoughts effect the arrangement of water molecules. 
It's amazing! And true!
Did you know that your body 
is made up of more than 60% water?
Imagine how you can
tRaNsForM your liFe
by whispering gentle LoVinG thoughts
to yourself and making
LoViNg choices
for beautiful and amazing yOu!

sO mUcH lOvE!
;0) dana-burger

Thursday, January 21, 2016

ShiZZLe HaPPeNS: StAyInG pOSiTivE!

deAr fun & frEE oNes!

I have to admit that last week was a bit, well, trying . . . , one of my kids got into a tiff with their bestie (and, of course, I wanted to get in there and fluff it and make it better . . . ), and basically, everyone (including me) was MeLtIng dOwN. So, I went to one of my mentors, Marie Forleo, for some tips about what to do. Here's what she says:
How to Stay Positively Positive
( . . .or at least get there eventually!)
MarieForleo TV

In the middle of it, I was actually having mini panic attacks--like, when your heart pounds and your mind is racing and you really can't sleep 'cuz your way up in your head? I had to remind myself to . . . just . . . well, bReaThe . . . 
I also told myself through it all to trust that everything is happening as it should, and there's a bigger plan involved than I can see  . . . and it's true (more about that later!)

Anyway, I am so grateful for it all. And, I know there is a plan and we all keep on learning. 

So lucky!

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

bReaThE . . .

dear fun & free pEOple . . .

I have to say that I've been a bit anxious lately (which you probably already know, if you follow my blog. I keep making lists in my head, and worrying that I'll forget something important.

Well, yesterday I did something (r)EVOLUTIONARY!

First, I wrote down seven major categories: kids, house, to fix, car, funfreeMe, business school, and LIFE! And then, I downloaded everything out of my brain and barfed it onto the paper.

You know what? . . . I realized that my list isn't even that long . . . and I was getting so overwhelmed. Even just getting it on paper calmed me down a TON!

In the past, what I've tried to do is get everything done superFAST so I can actually relax, instead of moving through my activities, and giving each my full attention and presence, trusting that I'll know what the next right thing to do will be--

Somewhere along the way, I learned that if I'm superBUSY and get things done superFAST in a superPERFECT way, I'll get extra credit or something. TOTAL VICTIM of busYness and PERFECTION!

Same with suffering. I used to believe that if I held onto the past and kept reliving pain, I would get extra credit for my extra suffering. TOTAL VICTIM of pAIn (in the butt) and DRAMA!

Secret information: We are human BEings not human DOings. We need to enjoy life along the way and not freak out over all the stuff we have to do, after all, there's always more stuff to add to our lists.

"In Micronesian, there's a word, kukaro, which has no corresponding word in English. When people say they are going to kukaro, they mean they are going to relax, sit around, and hang out. They are being, not doing."
--Eli and Beth Halpern

I sure don't know any Micronesian, and I don't even know where it's spoken, do you? Leave me a comment and let me know! but I love the idea of kukaro, and I'm going to put more kukaro-ing into my life!

xXoXox0x dana

Monday, January 18, 2016

lOvE mE! . . . yIkeS!

Dear FunFreePeeps;

Today's message will be rather pithy, but I've had an epiphany! OMG! 

Here it is:

I've had trouble all my life receiving; I've cemented my identity in being a GIVER, and in the same breath, I've surrounded myself with TAKERS. And, I've been resentful of people who have continuously TAKEN from me.

Interesting note: I take responsibility that I chose these people, these TAKERS . . . but I chose them from a place of unconsciousness.

And: Guess What? (you know what I'm going to write . . .): 

I am BE-COMING increasingly CONSCIOUS. YAY!

What I am learning right now, is that I need to be the receiver of my own giving. Sounds cray-cray, right?

In other words, I need to fill myself up fully, so I can give to others. 

So giving, begins with giving to myself.

And receiving, begins with giving to myself, and receiving from myself.

So weird.

Counter-intuitive to my nature.

Guess I just need to BREATHE into ME.

Love ME,
Evolving (awesome) Me.

Sunday, January 17, 2016

pUt the U in trUst!

Hey funfreeMeePs! (pretty good, huh?)

I bLogGed last week a bit about TrUsT in something biGGer than what we know... (which is hard...cuz we want to believe in what we can see, touch, smell, taste, or hear). Ya' fEeL mE? ...(jk)!

BuT TheRe'S mOre: we also get out of the habit of listening to our inner GPS(elf) and we forget about the U (as in me and you) in the word trUst.

Have you ever felt something in your GuT and ignored it? Or, listened to what other people say or think and allowed outSidE nOiSe mAkE your decision FOR you? Yikeys! FeELs like CrAp...doesn't it?

Do you ever ignore who you are and become a cHeAp iMitAtiOn of the real you? Like, what you think others want you to be or what other kids will like? I call this living from the OUTSIDE:IN not IN:SIDE OUT--we all do it from time to time, but if it becomes your full-job it can be hard work, and downright exhausting!
In a world where the media and other people (gRownUps, too) try to tell us what we should be, do, look like, ______ (enter own info here), it's hard to trUst ourselves.

INCOMING TOP SECRET INFORMATION: (you can share it with a grOwN uP if you want!): YOUR FEELINGS DON'T LIE! And guess where your feeling are? IN YOUR GUT! So listen to it!

Here's a meditation to listen to and trust your GUT
(aka the third chakra):

I used to have a hard time with tRuSting my inner gps(elf) and trusting in something bigger than myself, too. (...still working on both, SHHHHHHHH don't tell anyone!...)

Good thing we are bEaUtiful woRks iN prOgReSs!
ALL, yo (including peeps who bug you!!)

;) dana

Saturday, January 16, 2016

sAmE sAmE: onLy U cAn cHanGe . . .

"Friends can help each other.
A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself-and especially to feel. 
Or, not feel. 
Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. 
That's what real love amounts to-
letting a person be what he really is." 

- Jim Morrison, songwriter

HeLLo dEaR OneS,
hOpe this message finds you amazing . . . or not. Let me rephrase that: hOpe this message finds you wherever you are.
Caught up with one of my besties today and it turns out we both had kind of a rough week (yay! it's Friday!). I'm so glad I have a friend who I can be totally honest with, and who still thinks I'm amazing, even if things aren't all wOnDerFuL! 
Anyway, as we were catching up on the phone & exchanging stories about the messed up stuff that had happened to us and how dreAdFul it is, after all (well, not really, but I'll explain . . .).
As I listened and talked and we regurgitate the details, it ALL began to sound very fAmiLiar.
Now, I've known my friend for almost 10 years now, and more recently she has become one of my closest chums. And what I realized today, was that we have been telling the same stories (different specific content, but basically the same story line--) OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & OVER & . . . (you get the point).
And, in the middle of the conversation we had kind of an AHA moment (enter parade with trumpets blaring, etc.), that our experiences and stories are 100% about US (not about the other people or circumstances we were complaining about). My friend curiously said that the only thing we can change about our stories is US! I think what she meant is that these same stories will keep showing up until we can react differently to people and situations that trigger us, set boundaries with with the same people and situations, and then let go of the story and focus on taking care of oUrSelves and living in our own personal integrity. 
After all,
life is one big
I suppose that means if I change myself, 
I will change what I see in the mirror.
Hmmn . . . . . 

Personally, my story is getting pretty boring to me, and I'm not so sure telling it anymore is making my relationships any better, or any more deep and lasting (although my friends and family have, in fact, been pretty patient...thanks aLL! I promise I've been working on dropping it!).


So, how do we drop our story from the past and live in the present moment? And, at the same time, step forward into the possibilities for our future?

I'm going to noodle on that overnight . . . and talk to some of my people. I obviously need some help with it, or I wouldn't be attracting the same stuff over and over. Do you have any ideas? Let me know in the comments!

Once upon a time, . . . Once upon a time, . . . THE END!