Sunday, September 27, 2015

Rule 3: There are no mis-takes; only lessons.

Theere are no mistakes, only lessons

Dear funfreePeeps,

If you've hopped on the blog lately, you know that for the next 10 days I am digging into Cherie Carter-Scott's work, "Ten Rules for Being Human." Here's her list--I'm writing about one rule each day.

Ten Rules for Being Human

by Cherie Carter-Scott
You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's yours to keep for the entire period.
You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, "life."
There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately "work."
Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.
Learning lessons does not end. There's no part of life that doesn't contain its lessons. If you're alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.
"There" is no better a place than "here." When your "there" has become a "here", you will simply obtain another "there" that will again look better than "here."
Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.
What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.
Your answers lie within you. The answers to life's questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
You will forget all this.

As I think about rule three, I am struck with the idea of forgiveness--does that seem kinda weird? I didn't know where I was going with rule three, but I'm going with my intuition here.

We can assume that everyone is doing the best to get their needs met (even if we think it's messed up) and that we are doing the same. That's good news. I really truly know in my heart that everyone is doing their best (even if they piss me off or disappoint me or make me CrAzY#$@#$@%^ . . . or, crazier than I already am . . .  ask my 8th grade students! I have a fake turd in my desk . . . okay, maybe two: one human and one dog--I use them to play tricks on the school janitors every year. As in, "Bill! Come quick! Someone took a crap in my classroom! OMG!" . . . it's the best . . . ).

I can think of so many things that I've done that were pretty messed up (in other people's minds and in my own looking back) but those things obviously met a really important need for me at the time. Usually, it was one of the super duper basics I needed, like being acknowledged, being accepted, being loved, being recognized and seen, or being appreciated and valued.

So, if everyone is learning their lessons (including us), we can trust, and FOR(ward)GIVE ourselves and others for our "failed experiments," as the rule states.

I don't know about you, but I am much, much harder on me(self) than I am on others. And, when I am harsh or judging about others, it's really a projection of ME (. . . not psyched to admit that one, am I? . . . NO!). 'Cuz everyone's a MIRROR:RORRIM. When I criticize, it's about me needing to judge, be right, or be better than someone else.

But that's a rule that comes later. Maybe they're all the same. Yikeys . . . full circle.

Sweet dreams!

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