Dear Fun & Free Peeps!
Yesterday I shared that one of my Personal Codes of Truth is: I ask for what I need. Well, over the holiday break I learned a very important lesson about myself regarding this code. Where did I learn it? Of course, from my own children. Kids are so darn smart--way smarter about stuff than the grown-up grown ups. BACKSTORY: Let's just say that I am a bit "nutty" about keeping my house in order (cloaked term for perfectionistic). Any evening after work or any Saturday morning, you can probably witness me walking around the house for a couple of hours straightening things, wiping floors and counters, organizing cupboards and closets, cleaning out the refrigerator, and generally tidying up--- I'm in constant motion like the ENERGIZER BUNNY. It's actually pretty ridiculous to watch, I'm sure.
And here's something even more ridiculous: As I'm doing all of this fussing, I am heaving great dramatic sighs like I absolutely loathe what I'm doing (even though I'm choosing to do it). Funny thing is, I actually remember my mom doing the same thing (sorry, Mom, it's true!$%^#?!); and sadly, I believe my own kids have repeatedly witnessed "the dreaded dramatic sigh" for years now.
So what does the sigh mean? Well, if I'm really honest about it, it means:
- Can't anyone see how hard I'm working?
- Doesn't anyone appreciate me?
- How come nobody is helping me?
- Why do I have to do it all?
- Can't anybody read my mind?
Anyway, on with my story: Often when I am exhibiting this strange behavior, my kids ask me, "What's wrong, Mom?" or, "Mom, are you mad?" --to which I answer, "Nothing" or, "No, nothing's wrong" (because my kids should be able to read my mind, right?). How confusing!
When I sat with my kids having an allowance meeting, I shared with my kids that I am going to need more help from them around the house, and that the messes are stressful, and that I am getting tired of doing it alone; after all, we all share our home, and we could all share in caring for it, right?
Hmnn . . . I guess people can't read my mind, and I need to ask for what I need, huh? AND DUH! So, Max, Chloe, and I took some time to talk about a list of things we could ALL do together to run our household. And I've never been so tickled than now--to have so much help!
Together, my kids and I are now:
- folding laundry
- emptying the dishwasher
- putting away clothes
- wiping counters & floors
- clearing and rinsing their dishes
- stacking the dishwasher
- vacuuming & dusting
- hanging up their coats, hats, & mittens
- helping pack their lunches and preparing dinners
- AND MORE!
Is there anything that you need to ask for that you ASSume others should already know? Leave us a comment and share your experience with us!
Lots of Love,