“You can’t expect to draw people into your life who are kind, confident, and generous if you’re thinking and acting in cruel, weak, and selfish ways.
You must be what it is that you’re seeking--
that is, you need to put forth what you want to attract.”
- Wayne Dwyer
Have you ever had a friendship that you were struggling with and you make the other person WRONG? (. . . and thank goodness! OMG! YOU get to be supremely better and right(eous)?)And, you keep BLAMiNG the OthEr person for all the crappy stuff in the relationship, but you don't really take a lOOK at your own part in then crappy-ness?
It's really easy (and kind of a bad habit) to always blame other people for the problems or patterns in our challenging relationships . . . 'cuz there's usually a piece or the pattern that belongs to us (remember the MIRROR:RORRIM thing?). If it weren't a part of us, we wouldn't see it, right?
What if instead of making someone else wRonG, we figure out what our piece of the problem is, own up to it and forgive ourselves - - and then apologize to the oThEr person first?
You know, Gandhi once said, "You must be the change you wish to see in the world," which means, sometimes we may need to do things that might feel
sdrawkcab, inside out,
D W or another goofy
I O manner . . .
btw--it doesn't really matter what the outcome is--like, as in, whether or not they fOrGive us . . . as long as we've claimed our piECe . . . we can find our ownPeAcE? get it?
So today, I did something really super brave. I have had a really challenging friendship that went pretty bad. I actually spoke to my old friend and described what my own experience in the relationship was, took ownership of my ISH in the whole thing and I apologized. Felt great'cuz I really meant it and I actually felt lighter!
Can you actually imagine paying something forward by BEcoming what you SEE(K). You might just SEE it coming back to you in your future!
Have an amaZING day! XoxoXOOxoXOoxO!